Relational Coaching

Experience greater intimacy, authenticity and maturity in your most precious relationships

In person or online coaching for couples and individuals.
Based near Newton Abbot, Devon, UK

“We are breaking through problems that had seemed impossible”

Anna M

Love Is Not
All You Need

Being a Beatles fan I used to believe that love really was all we needed to make it work.

I now know that to have a secure, passionate and loving partnership takes a lot more than that.

If you’re in a loving relationship that just isn’t working - I’ve been there, it’s heartbreaking, frustrating, and downright confusing.

You may be near the beginning of a relationship, or at breaking point.

Relational Life Therapeutic Coaching can help.

My journey to becoming a relationship coach starts with my own lived experience of what it takes to turn it around.

Now 10 years in, I can safely say we wouldn’t have made it without Relational Life Therapy.

The tools and skills learnt have now become second nature, and we use them on an almost daily basis to maintain the loving, thriving (perfectly imperfect) relationship we now have.

I can walk beside you, with empathy for your stuck situation, and the skills and knowledge to help you out of it.

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“ Gaia held the space with kindness, humility, and a refreshing honesty and lightness.”

Richard B

Feel Less Alone
in the Struggle

One of the most difficult parts of relationship struggles is how alone we can feel in it.

Relationship challenges are normal. The problem is that most of us haven’t been taught the skills to do relationships well.

Relationship challenges I often encounter:

  • You get caught up in the same old arguments that don’t resolve and you both end up feeling unseen and unheard.

  • You fall into a dynamic where one of you wants more closeness and the other needs more space. This leads to one partner feeling anxious or unsatisfied, and the other feeling overwhelmed or resistant.

  • You’ve been together a long time and you’ve lost the sparkiness of the connection, potentially having little to no sex

  • Your patterns activate each other and you end up behaving in ways that are hurtful or self-abandoning but you feel powerless to do anything differently

  • Trust has been broken in the relationship and one or both of you are struggling to repair the damage and move on

Break Free of
Stuck Patterns

Relational Life Therapy is a hands-on approach that will support you to demystify what is happening when you get caught up in cycles of conflict, and teach you relational skills to break free.

We Do This By:

  1. SEEING THE DYNAMIC
    Relational Coaching supports you to see the challenging dynamic clearly, and what you are each doing that contributes to the tangle. 

  2. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR PART

    We all react differently to challenging situations. Whether we get defensive, anxious, avoidant, explosive, hopeless or something else entirely, these reactions are all a form of self-protection that we formed in childhood. In RLT we support you to take responsibility for your reactions and emotions by learning to relate to your inner child with love, guidance and limits. 

  3. DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT

    When we have more agency over our reactions, we’re able to respond differently. RLT teaches practical skills for how to navigate the inevitable rupture and repair cycles with grace, and maintain an authentic, healthy relationship long after your time in coaching is over.

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Learn Relational Skills

What I love most about RLT is its direct, skills-based approach. Having shared language, frameworks and tools transforms relationships. It’s a bit like learning to ride a bike, or an instrument. It might feel a bit clunky at first, but once you get the hang of it, everything becomes so much smoother and sweeter.

Skills Include:

  • Feedback Wheel - Effectively move through rupture and repair cycles

  • Active Listening - Communicate in a way where you both feel seen and understood 

  • Love Languages - Communicate and negotiate your needs, desires so that you both get the love you want

  • Boundaries Work - Create healthy internal boundaries, or learn how to let others in

  • Relational Time Out - Take the space you need in a way that also secures your partner

  • Containment/ Vulnerability - Feel and express your emotions in a way that isn’t overwhelming or walling off from your partner

  • Cherishing Buffer - Create rhythms and rituals that maintain closeness and passion

“ We have all round better communication. We acknowledge and appreciate each other, and spend less time in conflict. ”

- Rachel G

Find Out More About RLT

Watch a free lecture on RLT where I introduce 3 of the main frameworks:


Adaptive Child vs Wise Adult, The Neurobiology of Trauma, and The Relationship Grid.

Expertise and Experience

I believe that everyone can benefit from this work regardless of how you identify or your relational style. I welcome couples from all backgrounds and have personal and professional experience with ethical non-manogany and LGBTQ+ communities.

Experience:

  • Certified Relational Life Therapy (RLT) Coach trained with the Relational Life Institute

  • Practicing for 3 years and certified for 1

  • Certified Life Coach with the MOE Foundation 2021

  • Trauma-informed practitioner

  • 9 years experience as a group process work facilitator

  • In personal relational therapy for 5 years

  • 9 years in a committed relationship (my biggest teacher!)

Areas That I Can Support:

  • Co-dependancy

  • Anxious/ Avoidant dynamics

  • Navigating non-monogamy

  • Desire discrepancy

  • Sex, kink and intimacy

  • Anger/ Fighting

  • Boundaries

  • Self-esteem

  • Grandiosity

  • Empathy

  • Communication tools

  • Work/ life balance

Rates and Booking

Pricing is done on a sliding scale depending on income to support those on lower incomes.

  • 75 minutes for couples

  • 60 Minutes for individuals

  • Sessions held via zoom or in person

  • Office Hours 10 - 6:15 Tue | Wed | Thur

  • 10% discount when booking blocks of 6

New clients are required to start with a block of 6 sessions, weekly or every other week, after which you can book another block or switch to rolling.

Payment plans available on request.

I am based new Newton Abbot, Exeter and Totnes (Devon UK)

To work with me please book a free call to find out if this is a good fit, or drop me a message on my contact page

Couples Rates

  • For those on a 50k Salary or higher

    • One off session - £200

    • Block of 6 - £1080

  • For people earning 25 - 50k

    • One off session - £150

    • Block of 6 - £810

  • For those earning less than 25K

    • One off Session - £120

    • Block of 6 - £648

Book Couples Discovery Call (45 Mins)

Individuals Rates

  • For those on a 50k Salary or higher

    • One off session - £112

    • Block of 6 - £600

  • For people earning 25 - 50k

    • One off session - £90

    • Block of 6 - £510

  • For those earning less than 25K

    • One off Session - £78

    • Block of 6 - £420

Book Individuals Discovery Call (20 mins)

Testimonials

  • I feel very lucky we found Gaia. The relational coaching has been worth more than I can say, how can you put a price on something that helps you rediscover the love and joy you have for your partner after a really challenging period.

    Before seeing Gaia we did talking therapy for over six months, we seemed to spend hours getting even more tied up in the problems. This approach is so different, it is inherently positive and future facing. It also truly acknowledges pain and difficult emotion but through embodiment rather than overthinking. It feels like we are so much more connected, like we are breaking through problems that had felt impossible.

    Anna M

  • Working with Gaia has brought us closer together and has enabled us to be more vulnerable, kind and spacious towards one another, especially in conflict.

    We really practice listening and hearing each other, and have all round better communication. We take more time to acknowledge and appreciate each other, and seem to spend less time in conflict. We have learned more of our own and each other’s boundaries and honour and respect these. We have dropped the prison off perfection and understand greater what it takes to be in a committed relationship.

    Rachel G

  • Gaia held the space with kindness, humility and great care, drawing on her own experience & vulnerability with refreshing honesty and a lightness we both appreciated too. We were helped through a very sticky situation that without the sessions may have been too much for us to navigate.

    The sessions also used embodiment techniques which for me was another great bonus over talking therapy alone. I can only see how this work would help any couple if both come in open, & flexible enough to try different ways of relating and are always ready to keep working on themselves for their own and the good of the partnership they are in.

    Richard Batts - Ecstatic Dance UK